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How To Get Your Ex Back - Getting A Handle On Your Emotions

Author: ClaireTourney Total views: 7 Word Count: 448

If you have recently been through a break up and have been wondering how to get your ex back, ask yourself instead how you are doing emotionally right now? If you find yourself crying all the time at every sad song you hear or over anything that reminds you of your ex lover it's time to get yourself back together.

If being emotionally distraught is your most common state of mind right now it may serve to get you some needed attention, but after awhile your ex and the other people in your circle are going to get very tired of the drama and wonder why you won't make some effort to pull yourself together.

The Holly stereotype of the depressed, moody lover may be interesting to watch in the movie theater, but it's not going to play well in real life with your ex boyfriend or girlfriend.

And while you may not realize it, continuing to let your emotions run amuck can be a way of not facing the reality that there may be some things you need to change to have any chance of getting back together with your ex.

You also need to ask yourself if you are really sad about the break up or are you just ADDICTED to the feeling of sadness and heartbreak?

You really have to be careful here because intense emotions do release chemicals into our cells that become addictive over time and that's part of the reason you find people continuing in the same patterns, the same dramas and the same mistakes. Their cells are actually looking for that intense emotional fix that they have become addicted to and this triggers behaviors that will cause the emotional state all over again.

The best remedy for this is to be aware when you are doing it. Sometimes we get so caught up in our own dramas that we don't even realize that we are repeating the same behavior patterns over and over again. Once you start catching yourself doing this you experience an ah ha! moment and you start to reverse the pattern.

This enables you to start feeling a little more in control and ready to take more positive steps to get your emotions balanced and self confidence back.

Be glad that you are getting smarter about your emotions and use this time away from your ex to work on yourself and what you need to change. Do things that make you happy and help you to feel better and stronger and not only will you have more confidence, but you will also become more attractive to your ex. Then you are ready to begin planning your strategy for getting your ex back - the SMART way!

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Hi I'm Claire Tourney. Visit my Squidoo Lens How To Get Your Ex Back-The Smart Way to understand how your emotions may be hindering your chances of winning back with your ex and discover a PROVEN, effective plan for winning your ex back.

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